Sexual Wellness is a multi-faceted discussion. So many people think that by popping a few multi vitamins, or a libido booster from time to time will ensure that they will encounter sexual wellness. Unfortunately it is not that simple!
Firstly we need to realise we live in a stressful world, and we need to be aware that stress and anxiety can destroy the libido. Too much alcohol and smoking can also lead to a loss in libido. We need to be more careful with what we put into our bodies, what we eat, how we live, and how we look after ourselves.
Some people enjoy a social drink to relax and unwind, yet some depend too heavily on alcohol - have you heard the saying "I drink to make other people seem more interesting"? Drinking will dull your senses, ruin the mood and leave you feeling unsatisfied. With smoking, the obvious and best known side affect is what it does to your lungs, leaving carbon deposits. But we need to look further, if your lungs are negatively affected through smoking, surely then, their effeciency is compromised. Your breathing is affected to such an extent that your body is not receiving the necessary levels of oxygen to function properly - during sexual activity your heart rate increases, you breathe more heavily and thus need more oxygen to perform better. Heavy smoking and drinking affect the taste of semen, making it bitter! A good healthy diet will assist in a big way in improving the taste of semen! So guys, take a moment and think of your loved one. Another bad side affect of smoking is premature aging - smoking not only affects your lungs, but destroys collagen in your skin, thus creating a situation where you appear to be older than what you are!
"Me Time"! This is more important that what you may think. With all the modern day stress, stuck in traffic, meeting deadlines etc, we need to find "Me Time" - a time for yourself where you can relax, unwind, escape the harshness of daily life. This could involve physical excercise, a hobby/pasttime or simply relaxing with a full body massage. Having massage needs to be a regular event, not every 3rd or 7th month and then hope to eliminate stress. No, it needs to be a special time set aside in which you explore the wonderful healing process, feel the bodies energies being renewed, and to come away feeling refreshed. Some people are in the fortunate position where they can have massage every week, others can only do this once a month, whatever your situation, try to set a time that is convenient for you to receive healing, and then stick to that time/day.
You must also want to be healed - do not have a massage as a sense of duty, but receive your healing with gratefulness and thanksgiving, realising that this is a process leading to a new and revitalised you. Be someone wanting to be filled with more vigour, wanting to feel the improved circulation in your body, wanting to feel energized. All of this will contribute and lead to better sexual wellness, you will also feel more sensual and will want to be more intimate more often!
