50 Shades of Grey - Negotiation

Negotiation

Negotiation is an important part of a first scene. Basically it means finding out a potential partner's limitations, interests and physical limits. This can be in the form of discussion or written questionnaire. This may sound pretty boring and sterile but done right it can be a lot of fun and very sensual. Use your imagination, something like "so boy, what's in that filthy little mind of yours?" and go from there. Remember this just isn't the Dom's responsibility, the Sub has to actively participate also. Telling a Dom you have no limits ("anything you wish to do to me master") is sort of like letting a mouse loose in a cheese factory. Negotiation is not the time to be coy, especially on things like the location of your asthma medication or anything else you might need, medically speaking. Your fears ("get away from me with that!!!!") and desires should also be explored. A Dom is not a mind reader, and shouldn't feel the need to play the role of "Big Bad Omnipotent One" either. If you the Dom aren't comfortable doing something say that. A potential submissive partner worthy of the name should appreciate the fact you will say you aren't comfortable with something rather than compromise their safety.