The Aphrodisiac of Imagination
Einstein once said that "imagination is more important than knowledge" - we need to dream dreams, we have to have visions, and these stem from the imagination. Too often we get bogged down with knowledge, being caught up with what we are taught on how to do things. Take off the blinkers, step out of the box, have a look to what is on your left and right and you will be amazed.
The same can be said for lovers and couples, too often people get stuck in a rut, their love life becomes boring, stale and has no spark. They fail to use their imagination, they forget to try new positions, or re-awaken courtship. Sometimes they read a self-help article in a magazine on foreplay or courtship, please note that some of these articles are just guidelines, you still have to discover what works for you and your loved one, what fits in with your unique lifestyle. We are all unique beings, each with different sets of rules, different levels of sensitivity, and different levels of arousal. Communication is so vital in courtship, marriage and life. Guide your partner in a caring loving manner during foreplay, dont bombard them with phrases like : "dont do that!", "I dont like that!" etc. If something really appeals to you, tell them - for example : "go back to what you did earlier, I really liked that" or "wow that was really amazing".
The mind is the greatest Aphrodisiac you could wish to find! Many people have told me that they fantasize about their loved one and have gotten really turned on - I then encourage them to tell their loved one what it was in the fantasy. It could possibly get their loved one motivated to make that fantasy a reality. You dont need lotions, potions or pills, you have your mind, you have your imagination, and your loved one should be the center of that, allow that person to arouse you in mind, body and spirit.
How many of us often engage in erotic play and intimacy in the dark, for some it adds to the mystique. I once heard a theory that, to me seemed over-critical - the person I was speaking to said the following, "people only make love in the dark if they have something to hide, they are obviously thinking or fatasizing about someone else, not their partner", a very harsh comment, not something we would encourage. Could it be that some people might not be comfortable with having all the lights on, could it be that the mood becomes more romantic using candles or soft lighting? We are not here to judge others, find what works for you, and use it with great abandon.
On a lighter note, when I was much younger, my wife and I were cuddling in a softly lit bedroom, she looked up at me lovingly, and with sparkles in her eyes, she said, "you look gorgeous in the dark!". Needless to say there was much embarrassment and much apologising, the "make-up sex" was very rewarding.
The same can be said for lovers and couples, too often people get stuck in a rut, their love life becomes boring, stale and has no spark. They fail to use their imagination, they forget to try new positions, or re-awaken courtship. Sometimes they read a self-help article in a magazine on foreplay or courtship, please note that some of these articles are just guidelines, you still have to discover what works for you and your loved one, what fits in with your unique lifestyle. We are all unique beings, each with different sets of rules, different levels of sensitivity, and different levels of arousal. Communication is so vital in courtship, marriage and life. Guide your partner in a caring loving manner during foreplay, dont bombard them with phrases like : "dont do that!", "I dont like that!" etc. If something really appeals to you, tell them - for example : "go back to what you did earlier, I really liked that" or "wow that was really amazing".
The mind is the greatest Aphrodisiac you could wish to find! Many people have told me that they fantasize about their loved one and have gotten really turned on - I then encourage them to tell their loved one what it was in the fantasy. It could possibly get their loved one motivated to make that fantasy a reality. You dont need lotions, potions or pills, you have your mind, you have your imagination, and your loved one should be the center of that, allow that person to arouse you in mind, body and spirit.
How many of us often engage in erotic play and intimacy in the dark, for some it adds to the mystique. I once heard a theory that, to me seemed over-critical - the person I was speaking to said the following, "people only make love in the dark if they have something to hide, they are obviously thinking or fatasizing about someone else, not their partner", a very harsh comment, not something we would encourage. Could it be that some people might not be comfortable with having all the lights on, could it be that the mood becomes more romantic using candles or soft lighting? We are not here to judge others, find what works for you, and use it with great abandon.
On a lighter note, when I was much younger, my wife and I were cuddling in a softly lit bedroom, she looked up at me lovingly, and with sparkles in her eyes, she said, "you look gorgeous in the dark!". Needless to say there was much embarrassment and much apologising, the "make-up sex" was very rewarding.
posted by Don Dreaming Eagle | 1:52 PM
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