BDSM, Kink and Tantra!

Yes you read that correctly - BDSM, Kink and Tantra!

Before you run away screaming, or delete my info from your computer, stop, think, absorb.

How many couples love to play around during foreplay, how many like to use the imagination and creativity they have been blessed with? How many couples will at some time in their married lives experiment with blindfolds and (mock) handcuffs? Also how many have been careless enough to lose the keys to those handcuffs, thus creating an interesting scenario? Some even like to receive playful spanking! Maybe dress-up for their partner!

Yes we have been blessed with options, with creativity, with imagination!

But for some, there is a deeper yearning to explore this further, a deeper yearning to feel what it is like to be controlled, possessed, cherished and owned. Some want to experience what it is like to engage in "power exchange", allowing another to take complete control of a situation, allowing that person to give commands. Often you hear of high powered business men being caught out with a Dominatrix - more recently, the FIA boss, Max Mosely. There have been many. And, yes, there have been women who secretly see a Master whom they submit to.

Much of this has been kept hush-hush for fear of reprisal, some keep a secret supply of books or dvd's on the subject of Domination and submission, more commonly known as BDSM , or kink, or fetish lifestyle.

What is BDSM, let us break it down, Bondage/Discipline, Domination/Submission, Sado-Masochism.

What also needs to be explained are two very simple rules in this lifestyle:

RACK - Risk Aware Consensual Kink

Safe Sane & Consensual

Nothing is done without permission, boundaries are set, and "safe words" used. Someone wishing to submit to a Master or Dominatrix will have discussion first, set parameters and boundaries. They might want to explore sexual arousal while being restrained, they might have a need to confess to someone about their attitude, bad habits etc and wish to be punished for that - this can take the form of erotic spanking, or something harsher.

It is all about getting in touch with another dimension of your sexuality. Breaking the restraints of conformity. As we are taught in Tantra, to enjoy what we have, what we can experience. celebrate our bodies our pleasures our mind. If BDSM gives you pleasure, then utilise this to expand your abilities, your options

I know various communities and people involved in these communities. I assist them with Tantric Healing, sometimes I can assist others (who are curious) wishing to explore these dark desires that have been lying dormant for many years. This lifestyle is slowly coming out of the closet, peeping around the door, coming out and being more accepted. For some, experiencing this lifestyle has been a healing process in its own right, it has been transformational for them, as they begin to realise what their limits are, what there other desires might be, to experience a natural "high" through the release of endorphins and adrenaline. Some have experienced a break through in blockages caused by past hurts and abuse, through some of these techniques they learn to embrace those past hurts, break through the blockages, and move forward into a new realm of acceptance and victory, continuing into a deeper self assurance and positive attitude.

This is not something that is offered to everyone, nor is it part of my regular healing. it is a very specific need that has to be addressed, nurtured, exposed and dealt with in a caring dignified manner. But the results can be life changing for some.

If there is something you need to deal with in this manner, please speak to me or email me. We can meet to discuss it in detail. If there is something you need to experience, an erotic fantasy, a surreal dream, and you need to embrace this, or expose it and then deal with it, I will be here to assist you with what ever repressed emotions and dark fantasies you might have.

This work can be intense, but the release is also possibly the most rewarding!

Some say they wish to be bound to please, others are just pleased to be bound!

We are considering placing a new section on our website - dealing with this particular lifestyle and utilising it as a healing method. Using this to explore your sexuality, becoming more confident, to release your hidden repressed desires, and to restore your libido. Other Tantra sites in the USA are now recognising the value of kinks, and fetishes in our sexual lives, and thus we will be delving into this to expose it in a healthy manner