The need to understand your beloved
In a recent scientific study (Durex Sexual Wellbeing Survey 2007-2008)involving 26 032 people, in a total of 25 countries, the following was reported:
The majority of women surveyed are unable to, or don't have orgasm during sex.
This survey included 70% of women in Thailand, and 91% of women in China! The biggest reason cited... lack of knowledge by the MEN. Unfortunatley there are some women do not understand their own bodies, or how to enjoy simple pleasures of arousal. This is possibly due to guilt or past hurts.
I have seen much of this myself while talking to or healing people. It is a sad fact that many people are raised with a lack of sexual knowledge. If their parents do not enjoy sex, are fearful of sexual desires, ashamed of their bodies, then how can they communicate sexual wellness and sexual understanding to their offspring? We all need to break free of the restraints of conformity. Our sex, sexuality and sensuality are all gifts from our Creator. We need to acknowledge this, feel blessed, and then with a new found appreciation of who we are and what we have, go out and do research, found out more about how the body works and how it responds. Find a knowledgeable teacher and get involved in Tantra Workshops. Begin a journey of self discovery, learn to explore your body, look at your naked temple in a mirror and give thanks. You are unique, your wants, your needs and your pleasures are different to the next person, this is what makes us so special. Celebrate your senses! Enjoy Bliss!
It is so sad that women are deprived of their amazing gifts and capabilities for orgasm because of a man who does not know better or can't be bothered to learn a little about women. What many people need to learn is one simple truth, to get pleasure from giving pleasure, this in turn will arouse your beloved to do the same for you. In this way many inhibitions will soon disappear as you begin to discover new pleasures together. You will want to experience more than the simple "quicky" sex, you will want to spend time exploring each other's pleasure zones, creating new highs for your beloved, and thus create a safe space, a sensual sanctuary for each other, one of bliss and pleasure.
Self-love (masturbation) is also an important gift of pleasure, your beloved will learn much from observing you play, your beloved will see what turns you on and what gives you pleasure, what you can enjoy for extended periods and what is too intense.
Communication is also so very important. Sometimes a beloved needs to be guided gently. Avoid terms like "dont do that!", rather lovingly steer them with words that encourage, and even use your hands. Words like "I really enjoy this feeling" "I love having more of this" will definitely encourage them to be more sensitive to your needs. You might have to remind that hard stimulation is often not the preferred method. Armed with this new found knowledge, your beloved will then want to do the same for you and together your journey into ecstatic bliss will be profound.
Tantra is a path, your body is the playground, go out and play!
be blessed
Don
The majority of women surveyed are unable to, or don't have orgasm during sex.
This survey included 70% of women in Thailand, and 91% of women in China! The biggest reason cited... lack of knowledge by the MEN. Unfortunatley there are some women do not understand their own bodies, or how to enjoy simple pleasures of arousal. This is possibly due to guilt or past hurts.
I have seen much of this myself while talking to or healing people. It is a sad fact that many people are raised with a lack of sexual knowledge. If their parents do not enjoy sex, are fearful of sexual desires, ashamed of their bodies, then how can they communicate sexual wellness and sexual understanding to their offspring? We all need to break free of the restraints of conformity. Our sex, sexuality and sensuality are all gifts from our Creator. We need to acknowledge this, feel blessed, and then with a new found appreciation of who we are and what we have, go out and do research, found out more about how the body works and how it responds. Find a knowledgeable teacher and get involved in Tantra Workshops. Begin a journey of self discovery, learn to explore your body, look at your naked temple in a mirror and give thanks. You are unique, your wants, your needs and your pleasures are different to the next person, this is what makes us so special. Celebrate your senses! Enjoy Bliss!
It is so sad that women are deprived of their amazing gifts and capabilities for orgasm because of a man who does not know better or can't be bothered to learn a little about women. What many people need to learn is one simple truth, to get pleasure from giving pleasure, this in turn will arouse your beloved to do the same for you. In this way many inhibitions will soon disappear as you begin to discover new pleasures together. You will want to experience more than the simple "quicky" sex, you will want to spend time exploring each other's pleasure zones, creating new highs for your beloved, and thus create a safe space, a sensual sanctuary for each other, one of bliss and pleasure.
Self-love (masturbation) is also an important gift of pleasure, your beloved will learn much from observing you play, your beloved will see what turns you on and what gives you pleasure, what you can enjoy for extended periods and what is too intense.
Communication is also so very important. Sometimes a beloved needs to be guided gently. Avoid terms like "dont do that!", rather lovingly steer them with words that encourage, and even use your hands. Words like "I really enjoy this feeling" "I love having more of this" will definitely encourage them to be more sensitive to your needs. You might have to remind that hard stimulation is often not the preferred method. Armed with this new found knowledge, your beloved will then want to do the same for you and together your journey into ecstatic bliss will be profound.
Tantra is a path, your body is the playground, go out and play!
be blessed
Don
posted by Don Dreaming Eagle | 9:49 AM
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